It is okay to lose:
Moroni 7:43: Lose and you shall win
43 And again, behold I say unto you that he cannot have faith and hope, save he shall be ameek, and lowly of heart.
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Sometimes you Lose
Winning is a part of my DNA. My over-competitiveness is a liability when I am unable to relate to others who are suffering set-backs. When I am not winning I am bored. I get frustrated when others do not share my vision of efficiency and excellence.
In medschool people like me were called "gunners" because they would shoot others down.
Obviously I can do better. I need compassion, love, patience, understanding, and a willingness to see life in a better light.
I have found this patience through losing. I have recently lost a discussion with the entire surgery center about how a time-out should be done when starting surgery. I have lost the past 3 years trying to negotiate a business purchase for my practice (there is still hope we can work things out). I started 2 businesses the past 3 years that failed (Eye Ventures in advertising, Eye Ventures in equipment, Eye Ventures 40 websites that aren't producing traffic).
I choose to lose when the personal cost of a friendship is too high. I choose to lose when my ethics are in jeopardy and I need to let my morals win. I choose to lose when my family time is jeopardized.
I took donuts to the staff at the surgery center today on my return to show them I was okay with losing. I am over the loss, and I am sorry I made them feel poorly for them ganging up on me, I am sure they felt it necessary for a better way of patient care, which I felt unnecessary.
Here is a list of scriptural accounts of those who felt loss, who actually lost, who were losers at something:
Jonah: ran away from God into a whale!
Nephi: lamented his weakness (2 Ne 4)
broke his bow
brothers ran away in Promised Land
tied up by brothers on the ship he built
Peter the Rock, denied the Savior 3 times
Road to Emmaus didn't know it was the Savior
Oliver Cowdery Had a hard time translating
Martin Harris Lost 116 pages of ancient scripture history of Book of Mormon
Joseph Smith Rebuked by Lord for losing manuscript
Phelps Left the church and came back
Brigham Young Adam-God Theory - what was that?
Pres. Hinckley The Salamander Letters were a fake, hard to know that
Steve Young Played football on Sundays
Dave Woods Too many to list
It is okay to lose sometimes. Try your best, win when you can, but don't get too over anxious if you're human. Don't keep chronically making the same bad decision - get a 12 step program or something, but it's normal to have failure. Failure means you're trying to do something. We fail always before we succeed.
Losing can be good for you
Think of the Nephite Cycle
Prosperity, Pride, Wickedness --> Fall, humility, repentance, love, charity, kindness
Nephites in bondage, Mosiah 20's, to wicked king Noah, repented and were all baptized and freed.
Think of Moroni
Bad in writing Ether 12:20's
Ether 12:27 --> humility brings us to be strengthened by the Lord
In medschool people like me were called "gunners" because they would shoot others down.
Obviously I can do better. I need compassion, love, patience, understanding, and a willingness to see life in a better light.
I have found this patience through losing. I have recently lost a discussion with the entire surgery center about how a time-out should be done when starting surgery. I have lost the past 3 years trying to negotiate a business purchase for my practice (there is still hope we can work things out). I started 2 businesses the past 3 years that failed (Eye Ventures in advertising, Eye Ventures in equipment, Eye Ventures 40 websites that aren't producing traffic).
I choose to lose when the personal cost of a friendship is too high. I choose to lose when my ethics are in jeopardy and I need to let my morals win. I choose to lose when my family time is jeopardized.
I took donuts to the staff at the surgery center today on my return to show them I was okay with losing. I am over the loss, and I am sorry I made them feel poorly for them ganging up on me, I am sure they felt it necessary for a better way of patient care, which I felt unnecessary.
Here is a list of scriptural accounts of those who felt loss, who actually lost, who were losers at something:
Jonah: ran away from God into a whale!
Nephi: lamented his weakness (2 Ne 4)
broke his bow
brothers ran away in Promised Land
tied up by brothers on the ship he built
Peter the Rock, denied the Savior 3 times
Road to Emmaus didn't know it was the Savior
Oliver Cowdery Had a hard time translating
Martin Harris Lost 116 pages of ancient scripture history of Book of Mormon
Joseph Smith Rebuked by Lord for losing manuscript
Phelps Left the church and came back
Brigham Young Adam-God Theory - what was that?
Pres. Hinckley The Salamander Letters were a fake, hard to know that
Steve Young Played football on Sundays
Dave Woods Too many to list
It is okay to lose sometimes. Try your best, win when you can, but don't get too over anxious if you're human. Don't keep chronically making the same bad decision - get a 12 step program or something, but it's normal to have failure. Failure means you're trying to do something. We fail always before we succeed.
Losing can be good for you
Think of the Nephite Cycle
Prosperity, Pride, Wickedness --> Fall, humility, repentance, love, charity, kindness
Nephites in bondage, Mosiah 20's, to wicked king Noah, repented and were all baptized and freed.
Think of Moroni
Bad in writing Ether 12:20's
Ether 12:27 --> humility brings us to be strengthened by the Lord
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